The research, conducted by Hongya Fan and Weiqian Xiang of Shanxi University in Taiyuan, China, arrives at a moment when intercultural marriage is steadily becoming more common. In 2024 alone, 61,900 marriages involving foreign nationals or residents from Hong Kong, Macao, and Taiwan were registered in China, according to the National Bureau of Statistics. Unlike monocultural couples, intercultural couples face inherent friction as they attempt to integrate different cultural backgrounds, and these differences are particularly visible in language use, through which partners negotiate identities, adjust relational boundaries, and cultivate a shared couple culture. Silence, as a non-verbal behavior, has long been an important but understudied part of this process.

The cultural stakes of silence are considerable. In many Chinese and other East Asian cultures, silence has traditionally been endowed with pro-social values, serving as a pragmatic tool to express respect, preserve face, and maintain interpersonal harmony. In Western cultures, especially English-speaking countries, silence is more likely to be interpreted as embarrassment, disapproval, unfriendliness, or incompetence. These mismatches can cause cognitive bias in Sino-Western intercultural marriages, lead to pragmatic misunderstandings, intensify relational conflicts, and affect the sustainable development of marital relationships. Yet while existing research has explored silence in public and institutional contexts such as education and the workplace, the private, high-stakes realm of marriage and intimacy has received little attention.

To fill this gap, the researchers adopted a proceduralized grounded theory approach, a qualitative methodology characterized by rigorous bottom-up inductive reasoning that allows categories and generative mechanisms to emerge directly from raw data. The study integrated three types of qualitative data: semi-structured interviews with 25 Chinese participants in Sino-Western intercultural marriages, each lasting 40 to 50 minutes and covering cross-cultural conflict experiences, the contexts and manifestations of silence, internal psychological processes, and subsequent coping strategies. The anonymized transcripts were translated into English, resulting in approximately 130,000 words of interview material. Second, the team collected 20 public interaction videos posted by intercultural couples on mainstream social media platforms including Xiaohongshu and TikTok, documenting instances of silence along with accompanying non-verbal cues such as body movements, facial expressions, and partner feedback. Third, supplementary textual materials were gathered for comparative analysis, comprising 20 academic publications and 10 journalistic reports or social commentaries on intercultural marriages.

Through iterative open, axial, and selective coding procedures, the researchers identified 92 initial concepts and 20 categories, which were abstracted into four major categories and ultimately integrated around a single core category: the dynamic adaptation mechanism of Chinese partners’ silence in Sino-Western intercultural marriages. The resulting processual model follows a structured trajectory of antecedents, manifestations, adjustments, and consequences. To ensure structural validation, roughly 75 percent of the raw data were randomly assigned to the initial coding corpus, while the remaining 25 percent were reserved for independent saturation testing, which confirmed that no new categories or relational structures emerged and that the theoretical model had reached theoretical saturation.

The findings reveal that silence among Chinese partners evolves through a processual trajectory rather than functioning as a stable cultural disposition. Triggered by a triad of antecedents—cross-cultural value divergences, situational norm conflicts, and second-language pragmatic constraints—silence manifests in three distinct functional orientations. Intimacy-maintaining silence, characterized by altruism, prioritizes marital stability, extended family cohesion, and the emotional well-being of the spouse above personal self-expression. Boundary-preserving silence, by contrast, adopts a self-oriented attitude as an active defensive strategy to safeguard emotional boundaries, cultural integrity, and subjective rights. Mutuality-enhancing silence, observed at more advanced stages of relationship evolution, focuses on balancing the needs of both partners to co-create shared interactional meaning and promote continuous cultural negotiation.

Crucially, the study identifies two adjustment pathways that enable partners to transform silence from a potential source of misunderstanding into a constructive relational resource. Proactive individual adjustment involves unilateral cognitive and behavioral optimization at the personal level, including meta-communicative elucidation, in which Chinese partners proactively explain the reasons and meanings behind their silence so their spouses are not left guessing. Partners also regulate the temporal boundaries of their silence, framing it as a limited and rational pause, such as requesting five minutes to think, and mobilize multimodal compensation strategies like gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions to overcome linguistic-pragmatic constraints. Collaborative dyadic adjustment, the synergistic pathway, involves bilateral coordination grounded in mutual understanding, including forging shared interpretations of silence, co-constructing relational ground rules such as agreeing to break the ice if silence lasts over ten minutes after quarrels, and engaging in reciprocal cultural learning.

These adaptive processes produce consequences that unfold along a progressive continuum across three levels. At the micro level, silence regulates marital relationships by opening up cognitive and behavioral buffer zones to accommodate cross-cultural divergences, easing tension during parenting disputes and daily friction. At the meso level, silence catalyzes the tacit reshaping of domestic power dynamics, as Chinese partners replace straightforward emotional disputes with rational restraint, disrupting unilateral dominant patterns that often disadvantage minority-culture spouses and gradually deconstructing stereotypes held by Western partners. At the macro level, through protracted interactions, silence actively participates in cultural inclusiveness and negotiation, enabling both partners to gradually cultivate a resilient relational matrix following the collision of cultural divergences, ultimately advancing the progression of cultural integration.

Theoretically, the study reconceptualizes silence as an agentive interpersonal strategy through which Chinese partners actively manage cultural differences, emotional expression, and relational boundaries in intercultural marriages. This finding challenges culturally deterministic interpretations of Chinese silence as accommodation, compliance, or face-saving. Rather than representing a uniform tendency toward relational submission, silence can constitute an agentic practice through which Chinese partners simultaneously negotiate relational continuity and defend personal and cultural boundaries. The researchers also note that silence is topic-sensitive and relationally contingent rather than a uniform cultural response, since spouses occupy multiple overlapping relational roles simultaneously as romantic partners, household members, co-parents, financial partners, and mediators of extended-family relationships.

Practically, the findings provide valuable insights for intercultural couples, relationship counselors, and communication practitioners by highlighting the importance of interpreting silence within specific cultural and relational contexts. The proposed framework may inform the development of culturally sensitive counseling approaches and communication training programs aimed at reducing misunderstandings, enhancing empathic understanding, and facilitating more adaptive interaction patterns in intercultural marriages. By recognizing the agentive and relational functions of silence, individuals and practitioners can better support couples in navigating cultural differences and managing interpersonal challenges in increasingly diverse social contexts. The study does carry limitations: the sample focused on relatively highly educated Chinese partners, the qualitative design makes the functional weight of the core category impossible to quantify, and the perspective does not fully explore the experience of Western partners. Future research could expand the demographic scope, employ mixed-methods designs to verify the structural stability of the conceptual framework, and adopt a fully dyadic perspective to analyze the coordinated adaptation mechanism of silence in Sino-Western intercultural marriages.

Subject of Research: Silence as relational adaptation: Strategic communicative practices of Chinese partners in Sino-Western intercultural marriages

Article Title: Silence as relational adaptation: Strategic communicative practices of Chinese partners in Sino-Western intercultural marriages

Article References: Fan, H., & Xiang, W. (2026). Silence as relational adaptation: Strategic communicative practices of Chinese partners in Sino-Western intercultural marriages. Frontiers in Psychology, 17, Article 1957138. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2026.1957138

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DOI: 10.3389/fpsyg.2026.1957138

Keywords: Silence, relational, adaptation, Strategic, communicative, practices, Chinese, partners, Sino-Western, intercultural, marriages, scientific research