Parental accommodation is a well-documented phenomenon in families of young children with anxiety disorders and obsessive-compulsive disorder. It can include answering a child’s reassurance-seeking questions repeatedly, completing tasks the child avoids, changing family plans to sidestep feared situations, or participating in rituals. Decades of research have shown that although accommodation is usually motivated by love and a desire to soothe distress, it can inadvertently reinforce anxiety by signaling that the feared situation is genuinely dangerous and by removing opportunities for the child to learn that distress is tolerable. What has been far less clear is whether these dynamics persist into emerging adulthood, the developmental period roughly spanning ages eighteen to twenty-five, when young people are expected to consolidate independence.

The new study, conducted by Emily K. Juel and Jonathan S. Abramowitz of UNC’s Department of Psychology and Neuroscience, addressed this gap by recruiting parents of emerging adults and asking them to complete self-report questionnaires about their own behaviors, anxiety, and demographic characteristics, as well as corresponding information about their emerging adult child. The timing is notable: attending college is often the first sustained opportunity for a young adult to live away from home, and the separation can heighten anxiety for students and parents alike. The researchers reasoned that parent behaviors, including accommodation, may continue to shape how emerging adults develop and exercise emotional regulation during this transitional period.

The results pointed clearly to the parents’ own inner lives. Greater parental anxiety emerged as a significant predictor of accommodation, as did more negative beliefs about anxiety, the conviction that anxiety itself is harmful, unbearable, or a sign of weakness. This finding aligns with a broader theoretical framework in which parents who catastrophize anxiety are more motivated to extinguish it quickly in their children, because they interpret their child’s distress through the same alarming lens they apply to their own. In other words, a parent who believes anxiety is dangerous has a powerful incentive to remove whatever triggers it, even when the trigger is an ordinary developmental challenge such as managing a roommate conflict or navigating a difficult exam.

One of the study’s most striking demographic findings concerned the gender of the emerging adult. Parents of female emerging adults reported significantly higher levels of accommodation than parents of male emerging adults. The authors note that this pattern echoes broader cultural expectations in which young women are often perceived as more vulnerable and in greater need of protection, while young men are encouraged toward independence earlier. Whether the difference reflects genuine differences in the children’s expressed distress, parental perception, or socialized patterns of caregiving remains an open question, but the consistency of the effect adds to a growing literature suggesting that gender shapes how families distribute emotional support.

Not every hypothesis was borne out. Parent education level showed no significant association with accommodation, indicating that this behavior crosses educational and presumably socioeconomic lines rather than clustering among more or less educated households. Perhaps more reassuring, fewer than ten percent of parents reported engaging in accommodation behaviors on a daily basis. The picture that emerges is not one of pervasive helicopter parenting but of a spectrum on which most parents of emerging adults maintain boundaries most of the time, while a subset, particularly those wrestling with their own anxiety, intervene more frequently.

The study also ventured into distinctly modern territory: family tracking applications. The researchers collected preliminary evidence that the use of apps allowing parents to monitor a child’s location was associated with parental anxiety sensitivity, general parental anxiety, and negative beliefs about anxiety. Anxiety sensitivity, the tendency to fear anxiety-related bodily sensations, has long been identified as a risk factor for anxiety disorders, and its link with tracking behavior suggests that digital surveillance may function as a technologically mediated form of accommodation. Rather than calling a child repeatedly or driving to campus to check in person, an anxious parent can now open an app and confirm, moment by moment, that the child is where they are expected to be.

This finding raises questions that extend beyond clinical psychology into technology ethics and family law. Location-tracking apps are marketed to parents as safety tools, and many families adopt them without conflict. But prior scholarship has described parental surveillance as an ambiguous practice that blends care with control, and the new data suggest that the parents most drawn to these tools are also those most prone to interpret anxiety as catastrophic. If accommodation undermines the development of independent emotional regulation in children, then habitual tracking of emerging adults may represent a digital extension of the same well-intentioned but potentially harmful cycle, one that follows the child across geographic distance in a way that previous generations of parental worry never could.

The clinical implications are significant. Parent-based treatments for childhood anxiety, most notably the Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions intervention, have shown in randomized trials that reducing accommodation can be as effective as treating the child directly. The new findings suggest that similar approaches could be adapted for families of emerging adults, targeting not only accommodation behaviors but also the parental beliefs about anxiety that appear to drive them. Because parental anxiety itself predicted accommodation, clinicians may also need to assess and address the parent’s own symptoms, rather than treating the parent solely as an agent of change for the child. For families navigating the college years, the message is nuanced: staying connected is healthy, but repeatedly stepping in to dissolve a young adult’s anxiety may deprive them of exactly the experiences that build resilience.

The authors emphasize that the study is a first step rather than a final word. The data are cross-sectional and based on parent self-report, so the direction of causality remains uncertain; anxious parents may accommodate their children, or accommodating a distressed child may heighten parental anxiety, or both processes may reinforce each other over time. Future research, the researchers suggest, should track families longitudinally, incorporate the perspectives of the emerging adults themselves, and examine tracking app use in greater depth. Data from the study will be made available upon reasonable request to the authors. What the research already establishes, however, is that the gravitational pull of parental accommodation does not vanish at the threshold of adulthood. It simply changes form, traveling through phone calls, reassurance, and, increasingly, the glowing screen of a location-sharing app.

Subject of Research: Parental accommodation of anxiety in emerging adult children and its psychological correlates

Article Title: Correlates of Parental Accommodation of Emerging Adults

Article References: Juel, E. K., & Abramowitz, J. S. (2026). Correlates of Parental Accommodation of Emerging Adults. Journal of Child and Family Studies. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10826-026-03371-5

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DOI: 10.1007/s10826-026-03371-5

Keywords: parental accommodation, emerging adults, anxiety, parenting, college students, anxiety sensitivity, family tracking apps, helicopter parenting, emotion regulation, mental health, developmental psychology, family dynamics